Friday, September 25, 2015

China- Part 2


Lexi's orphanage in Jinan

Meeting my baby girl

Daddy's baby girl

Welcome sweet baby

The adoption is complete! First night together

First smiles are the best

A little Dutchiness at a local park

It was hot.  

Sisters face timing

Pool party with the other adoptive families

Dinner anyone? 


Our Bethany adoptive families group

Leaving our hotel, it was home for a week

Yes, let's ride an airplane for 14 hours!


Our family reunited


July 6- it was time to meet Lexi!  We were excited and nervous on the drive to her orphanage.  We waited in a play area and a caretaker brought her out.  She told us Lexi wouldn't be afraid of us because she was used to alot of people.  Well, that's not exactly a good thing..  Lexi let us hold her, but she soon began sucking her thumb.  A sign of her feeling stressed.  Nate played with Lexi while I asked the caretaker some questions.  We wanted to go inside the orphanage, but they did not let us because of chicken pox issues.  We then headed out with our guide to spend the rest of the day driving to government offices all over Jinan to complete the adoption.  Jinan is a huge city- 8 million people.  Lexi did amazing with all the sitting in traffic, dragging her into office buildings and so forth.  Her adoption was finalized at 4 pm on July 6, 2015.  We had an awesome guide, Jane who advocated for Lexi.  We are so grateful.  Once back at the hotel we got some take out and spent the evening in our room.  I gave Lexi her first bath.  She was very quiet and still that evening, but she seemed to be enjoying our attention and being outside of a crib.

July 7- Lexi slept well and we had an early in country flight to Guangzhou.  We brought some yogurt in a cup for Lexi to eat on the plane.  Security was not impressed.  They kept saying, drink it! And I was saying, "the baby can't drink it!"  Finally we figured out they wanted me to take a bite in front of them so they knew it wasn't explosives or something. Nate had a lighter in his checked luggage which they confiscated.  Nate wasn't happy, he liked that lighter.  Lexi did well on the plane and we even got her to laugh- she's ticklish.  She also cried for the first time, when Nate pulled her bottle away to burp her.  Both good signs!  We arrived at the Marriott China Hotel, where many other adoptive families stay.

July 8- Lexi had a medical appointment for her visa.  She needed a blood draw done and it was traumatic.  We also found out she needed the sputum testing for TB 3 days in a row.  She can't have a bottle after 8 pm and we have to keep her lying horizontal until the test is done.  And the sputum removal process is not pleasant.  The medical procedures have been challenging on many levels.  We took Lexi to the pool that afternoon and she liked splashing her feet.  We took a walk at a nearby park after supper, it is so hot and humid.  And so busy!  There are people everywhere you go.

July 9- We took Lexi for her first TB test and chest x-ray.  Again, not an easy morning.  We went on a group tour with the other Bethany adoptive families (7 families) to a botanical garden.  It was pretty, but we spent most of the time finding shaded areas.  Next our group went to a local history museum, it wasn't great.  That afternoon Nate ventured to the supermarket for diapers and formula.  He took the subway, which is always crowded.  The store was 3 stories tall and he struggled to find baby supplies.  He found the formula, but they wouldn't let him take it!  He finally figured out he needed to pay for the formula in that area before he could go to other areas of the store.

July 10- We took Lexi for her second TB test. The traffic was horrible and we forgot Lexi's formula so we couldn't feed her when the procedure was done.  Parenting fail.  While we were at the appointment a boy practiced his English with Nate.  He gave Nate a packet of tea.  We asked our guide later what the tea was called and she laughed.  The tea is used for a woman's "special time" as she put it.  Obviously the boy had fun playing a joke on Nate. We walked to a pizza place for lunch, yum.  Nate then took the subway to Beijing street, an outdoor mall.  The clothes were expensive and the owners didn't bargain.  Lexi got bad heat rash, so we tried to keep her indoors as much as possible.  She was miserable when we brought her outside.  For supper our group went to a local Cantonese style restaurant, really good food.  After Lexi was in bed Nate and some other guys from our group took a subway to Canton Tower.  The tower is lit up at night and very cool.  There are cable cars that go around the tower at the top, but they didn't want to wait in line for that feature.  They had a very entertaining taxi ride back to the hotel, the driver was very aggressive. Nate thought it was great.

July 11- Lexi had her last TB test, yay! Lexi is smiling more and loves to be held.  Our group went to the Chen Lineage Academy- a kind of folk art museum.  We had a calligrapher do Lexi's name on a wall hanging for her bedroom.  Next we went to the Pearl Market.  It is a 5 story building full of shops all selling pearls, it is crazy.  We bought a pearl necklace for Julia and Lexi for when they are older.  The rest of the day was low key.  We played at the hotel playground. After supper we borrowed a stroller from the hotel and walked thru a local park.  Lexi seemed happier being in a stroller than in the ergo in the heat.

July 12- We finally could have a relaxing morning.  The kids back home had a chance to talk with Lexi.  Julia thinks Lexi is so cute.  Finding time to talk with the kids when Lexi is awake has been challenging as there is a 12 hour time difference.  Today our group went to Shamian Island. The island architecture is similar to the old US south, reminded us of Charleston.  The US Consulate office used to be on the island, so all international adoptive families used to stay on the island.  We did some souvenir shopping and stopped by a local Christian church.  It was bizarre to see so many Chinese tourists taking pictures of the Chinese people worshipping inside.  We had a relaxing afternoon and a pizza pool party with the other adoptive families.

July 13- Lexi slept til 8 am!  We chatted with the kids, had a late breakfast and headed out to finish our souvenir shopping.  We went to a mall, One Link Plaza. It was 6 stories of tiny shops mostly selling the same things.  We had a relaxing afternoon, Nate and I have taken turns using the gym/pool.  Our group met up for dinner at the Cantonese restaurant we went to previously.  We looked at the tanks of eel, shrimp, fish, turtles, etc that customers can choose from for their dinner.  We didn't go that route, our guide ordered food for us.   Our guide, Shiyan (who is also fantastic) helped me buy tea sets and tea from a local merchant.  Lexi did not want to fall asleep tonight, just very playful.  She is showing more of her personality and seems to really enjoy our attention.  She loves playing and wrestling on the bed with us.  The kids back home are very stressed and ready for us to be home, we all are ready!

July 14- Visa appointment day!  We've been waiting for this day so we can go home!  The security checkpoint at the embassy flustered us.  We then got up to the waiting area and realized we had left Lexi's documents at security!  Heart attack moment.  Thankfully someone from our group was behind us in line and brought the documents up.  The visa appointment went smoothly and Lexi's TB test was negative, thank you God!  That afternoon we went to the pool, kind of the natural meeting place for all the families.  We took a walk after supper, but didn't last long.  Lexi's heat rash is making her miserable.

July 15- We took it slow this morning, ate breakfast and began packing.  It feels like all we are doing is waiting.  We checked out of the hotel at 2 pm.  It was odd and relieving to leave the China Hotel in Guangzhou.  It was our first home with Lexi. We rode to the embassy and waited while Shiyan picked up Lexi's visa.  It was relief to hold that visa in our hands- we could go home!  We got in the van and had a 2 1/2 hr ride to Hong Kong.  Hong Kong seems to be a fascinating city, it would be fun to explore it sometime.  Our hotel was connected to the airport, which was convenient. Lexi wouldn't take a bottle before bed and struggled to fall asleep.  I'm sure all the travel and a new hotel room made her nervous.

July 16- Time to go home! We got thru the airport with about 10 minutes before our flight boarded.  The Hong Kong airport is huge.  We had a 14 hour flight ahead of us, I was very nervous.  Some friends told us to upgrade our seats to business class because of more leg room.  We are so glad we upgraded.  Lexi took a 2 hour nap and was awake/happy for a while.  Once it was her normal bedtime, she was not happy.  Lexi wants to fall asleep lying down in her crib.  She was not happy that we had to hold her.  She slept on and off for 5 hours.  Nate and I did not sleep much during the flight.  We were SO happy to land in O'Hare.  Immigration and customs took a long time.  Once we cleared customs Lexi became an official US citizen!  We then had to re check our luggage and go thru security again, very frustrating.  We made it to our plane just as the boarding process began.  Lexi was happy on the 40 minute flight to Grand Rapids and was awake when we landed.  We were overjoyed to see the kids waiting for us.  They had made welcome signs and ran up to us.  I started crying and Lexi did not know what to think of the whole situation.  Amy Dozeman had been watching the kids so she was with them.  Tim/Jenny and kids were there, Jenn Winebrenner and kids, Rebecca and Wendy and the Slot family.  What a great welcoming party.  Our luggage did not arrive with us, but that was ok.  Our family was together again and we were going home.  

Thursday, September 10, 2015

China- Part 1


O'Hare airport- ready to go!

Climbing part of the Great Wall

Rickshaw ride thru a traditional neighborhood

Waitress at North Korean restaurant

And all the published works of North Korean's dictators on display


The entrance to the Forbidden City




The Bird's Nest dome from the Olympics


The pollution was bad in Jinan


Picture from the kids back home- Lake WI 




On July 1, Nate and I got an early morning drive to the GR airport from my brother Tim.  Saying goodbye to the kids the night before was hard.  I had quite a few doubts leading up to this trip, did God really have all of this under control?  But, God calmed my fears.  By the time we left for the airport I was at peace about leaving our kids for 16 days and bringing Lexi into our family.  I knew it was going to be challenging, but not impossible.

We had a 5 hour layover in O' Hare before our flight to Beijing.  The flight was 12 hours and it was brutal.  We were in coach and had very little leg room.  Nate lost feeling in his legs a couple times and neither of us slept much.  We were so excited to land in Beijing but also exhausted, we had been traveling for 24 hours.  We stayed at the Jianguo hotel.  The next day we met up with the other Bethany families and did some sightseeing.  Our guide, Tom was very knowledgeable and we learned much about China. We started at a cloisonne factory.  It is copper enamelware and this intricate, beautiful and unbreakable.  And expensive.  We then went to part of the Great Wall.  The weather was beautiful and hot.  Nate and I climbed one side of the mountain.  Nate and Craig climbed the other side while Beth and I cooled off.  The sheer amount of history in China is amazing.  Beijing is very modern and we didn't see many evidences of "old China."  China is an interesting mix of capitalism and communism.  We had a Chinese lunch, but much of it was fried.  That was surprising.  We then toured a jade artisan store.  Jade is beautiful and very expensive.  No jade souvenirs for the kids!  We walked thru part of the Olympic square and saw the bird's nest stadium and the cube- where the swimming races took place.

On July 4 our group went to Tiananmen Square- it is huge!  Mao's mausoleum in also on the square and there was a long line of people waiting to get in and walk past his body, kind of creepy.  We walked thru the Forbidden City, where the emperors used to live.  The Forbidden City is massive but there were probably 200,000 tourists pushing us along in a sea of humanity.  We tried to see the emperor's throne, but it was like a mosh pit with everyone jockeying to get a picture.  People who had travelled from outside Beijing were very excited to see white people and took pictures of us and with us.  Somewhere our pictures were up on Wechat and QQ, the Chinese version of facebook. The public bathrooms were also an experience.  They were squatty potty's and you bring your own toilet paper.  And there is no waiting in lines, women just push to whichever stall opens up.  I had to throw an elbow at an older lady who tried to push in front of me, just kidding- kind of.   Next we took a rickshaw ride thru an old Chinese neighborhood, there are only 100 of these neighborhoods left in Beijing.  We ate lunch at the home of a local family and again were surprised by the number of fried dishes we were served.  In the afternoon we went to a tea house and participated in a tea ceremony.  We sampled 5 kinds of tea, oolong ginseng was my favorite.  The tea ceremony is very artistic.  Next we went to an acrobatic show.  There were a couple amazing stunts, but overall the show wasn't very professional.  And some of the stunts we had seen at the Wisconsin Dells, ha!  For dinner, Nate and I went in search of a Korean restaurant and we found a North Korean restaurant!  It was a fascinating experience.  The waitresses were Chinese, wore beautiful hanboks and did not speak English.  The written works of North Korea's dictators were on display and North Korean propaganda TV was playing in the background.  Nate joked that just being in that restaurant would jeopardize his security clearance.

On July 5 we slept in and walked to Rinan Park.  It is interesting to see all the families with only 1-2 children and usually grandparents are with them.  We learned that China has changed the one child policy.  If one parent is an only child, then the couple may have two children.  That evening we took a bullet train to Jinan.  Traveling by bullet train is awesome! There is comfortable seating, it's fast and you can walk around. We arrived in Jinan and met our guide, Jane who would help with Lexi's adoption the next day.  We learned Jinan has 8 million people and some of the worst pollution we've ever seen.  We stayed at a very fancy hotel, The Hyatt Regency.  That night we tried to prepare for the big day ahead- meeting Lexi and adopting her!



Wednesday, September 2, 2015

June

6 years

2 1/2 years

Almost 11

Almost 8 

Last day of school

Last time walking/carpooling with the Petersons

Tunnel Park sand dune

Stuffing themselves with strawberries

Two of them are happy

At Hoffmaster State Park

Rainy morning breakfast in the camper

Running the dunes at Hoffmaster

Heritage Camp friends

Nice pic with the grandparents

Ballet/tumbling class

Isaac and Levi Gabrielse

The backpacking group

South Manitou Island


Dad built this bunkbed!
So I'm writing about June when school ended and the new school year started last week.  Crazy.  The kids were so excited to start summer vacation. And I had big ideas for the summer.  We will be scheduled and they will do math pages, reading, practice piano and Korean!  Yeah, that lasted about 2 weeks.  They still read, Isaac tried to avoid it as much as possible. We had families over for dinner that we'd meant to invite for a while.  We needed to get it done before Lexi came home!  It is always fun to share a meal and get to know other people better.  Caleb did a basketball camp at Holland Christian for a week.  He was shooting hoops all the time before camp and not so much after camp, not sure what that means...

We went camping at Hoffmaster State Park.  The weather wasn't super great, but it mostly rained at night so we could still be outdoors during the day.  We had one rainy breakfast which made us thankful for the ability to eat inside our camper.  Funny story, we ran out of propane for our outdoor stove.  We needed to make hot water in the morning and decided the best we could do was run hot water thru the coffee pot.  The next morning we realized, oh yeah there is a stove top in our camper that we can use!  This was the last camping trip that our whole family could sleep inside the camper.  From now on the older boys will have to sleep in a tent.  They think it will be great fun.

Julia attended Heritage Camp again.  It is a week long day camp.  Originally we didn't want to pay the extra money for the older boys to go, but it would have been worth it.  We spent so much time in the car driving back/forth to GR that week.  It would have made more sense for them to stay at camp.  The older boys did do Heritage Camp with Julia a couple summers ago and they learned alot about Korea.  Julia loves Heritage Camp- the food, spending time with other Korean adopted kids and learning about Korea.  One of the teen helpers was supposedly named Julia Cho too!  I didn't get a chance to meet her and verify, but Julia was adamant this was true.  Julia also got bunkbeds for her room, made by Nate!  They look great and Julia is happy to be on the top bunk.  Lexi will sleep in a crib in Julia's room for now.  Julia also did a tumbling/ballet class for the first time.  She seemed to enjoy it, more so than soccer last year.

Nate, Caleb and Isaac did the annual backpacking trip.  There was a large group of Dads/kids that went this year to South Manitou island.  Moms are not allowed on this trip.  Yeah, that's really too bad.  The boys love backpacking rules or lack of rules and spending time with their friends.  They always come back with lots of stories and thankfully no poison ivy this year!

We spent the month of June on pins and needles waiting to hear if we would travel to China in July- and we got the travel call!  We were so excited to finally bring Lexi home and we were crazy busy getting ready for the trip.